Every Christmas was a white Christmas when I was growing up in suburban Los Angeles in the late 1960's and early 70's.
Though my parents raised my brother and me without any religion, for some reason we always celebrated Christmas. Without any religious back story to give the holiday meaning, Christmas devolved into just 3 traditions: going to the mall to sit on a fat bearded man's lap (pictured left), getting presents, and decorating the house. Most of my memories revolve around that last one, which in our house meant decking the halls with boughs of plastic.
I grew up in the iconic, mid-century, single-story Modernist LA suburban house built by my father. My mother filled the floor-to-ceiling glass window lined space with all the furniture that, much to my amusement, is once again the height of fashion. Knoll tulip chairs sprouted out of the terrazzo floors in the eating area, while a black leather Eames chair reclined in the den. My mother coordinated everything, from the bean bag and Knoll butterfly chairs down to the place mats, in three colors: red, black and white.
Every year about 2 weeks before Christmas, my father fetched the cardboard boxes marked "Xmas" from the makeshift storage area perched above the brown Ford Grand Torino station wagon in the garage. He would carry the boxes into the living room and carefully lay them on the carpeting.
Step one was to assemble the tree. Dad pulled out of the box the central metal post (which became the "trunk") and the wire and white plastic "branches," which he arranged by length, the longer pieces forming the lower portions of the "tree" and the shorter the upper part. Next, he untangled the wires of blinking white lights and slipped them over the branches. Then, he strung the strands of silver beads from branch to branch. Mom took over the next job of placing the red and silver balls and the twisted glass icicles on the tree. Then, my brother and I put on the fun ornaments, which were, of course, color coordinated to match the rest of the house. Dad returned for the final step, placing on the tip of the tree the white angel with the light bulb screwed into its back.
When we were finished, our living room was transformed into a set from a John Waters movie. The fake white tree (1969 version pictured right) grew out of the white shag carpeting, its electric white lights illuminating the white velour sofas, white walls, and white curtains that surrounded it. I forget what age I was when I finally realized that the famous Bing Crosby song was referring to snowfall on Christmas day, not the whiteness of our living room.
Our one food-related tradition occurred every Christmas Eve. Because Mom would be spending hours the following day constructing a Christmas feast (different every year), Christmas Eve was her day off and always featured the same food bought from a local deli. Dad ceremoniously lit a fire in the fireplace, never a necessity in LA, and then we sat on those white sofas and chairs next to that tree and nibbled on a tray of sliced meats and cheeses, shrimp cocktail, pickles, celery sticks, and, the highlight for us kids, little hot dogs wrapped in Pillsbury croissant dough. We dipped our pigs-in-the-blanket in ketchup and toasted the holidays with glasses of Martinelli's sparkling cider. I remember how special I felt to be sitting on those white sofas that were usually off limits to my brother and me, solely reserved for my parents' notorious late night cocktail parties and bridge games.
Neither N nor I are practicing Christians, so we never truly celebrate Christmas. We've only decorated our house once, a couple of years ago when we threw a holiday party. Last night, on Christmas instead of Christmas Eve, as a nod to my parents, who are both no longer with us, we bought some nice meats and cheeses from our local deli. We replaced the ham, turkey, and roast beef of my childhood with a platter of our own favorites, like Spanish jamón serrano, duck liver pâté, locally made Molinari salami, Spanish oil-packed anchovies, and smoked sturgeon. We savored some Spanish olives I marinated and the last of the yellow wax beans I pickled. For dessert, we tucked into some Basque Garrotxa cheese, membrillo, toasted hazelnuts, and plenty of Della Fattoria bread.
Then we toasted our glasses of champagne to family, friends, memories of holidays past and to holidays yet to come.
(Although I am a few days off for some events) I wish you all a happy holiday season! Happy Solstice! Merry Christmas! Happy Hanukkah! Happy Kwanzaa! And even a Happy (belated by a few days) Birthday to me! Cheers to all!
Happy birthday! I'm a near Christmas baby myself. And I just got to see a John Waters XXXmas at the Fillmore.
Posted by: haddock | Monday, December 26, 2005 at 09:36 AM
Oh no man, I missed your birthday? Crap. That's the most important one of all if you're not really Christian-ha :) Happy belated Brett! And loved this post about your holidays of the past. I started out as a wee little brat in Los Altos for 6 years where we were accustomed to NON-white Christmases, then moved to Connecticut where we lived in quintessential New England suburbia..where we OFTEN had white Christmases. Now I'm back again in Northern Cali, seems I've come full circle...Your feast sounds like it was fantastic. Hope you're not back at work yet...I'm loving being out here in CA, kinda dreading going back to the Big Apple grind..
Posted by: Mona | Monday, December 26, 2005 at 11:49 AM
That was a great reminiscence, and a great tribute. Sounds like your mom was "groovy."
Happy birthday.
Posted by: cookiecrumb | Monday, December 26, 2005 at 12:05 PM
Looks like a appetizing tradition to me. Happy Holidays
Posted by: Greg | Monday, December 26, 2005 at 04:06 PM
How very cool! Hope your holidays are continuing - New Year's yet another reason to extend festivities. And have a very happy belated birthday!!
Posted by: radish | Monday, December 26, 2005 at 06:24 PM
thank you for sharing your fascinating past with us Brett. I have been doing a bit of remembering the past today and of people suddenly and sadly no longer with us and this managed to bring a smile to my stormy little heart.
I hope you had a great birthday too, and I also hope we'll meet again soon in 2006
regards to you and N!
sam
Posted by: Sam | Monday, December 26, 2005 at 10:13 PM
I really enjoyed this post. Just love those glasses on Santa. Though I grew up in the Pittsburgh city limits, in a craftsman era house, the furnishings and art were of the same sort. Our holiday traditions were totally secular, too.
Somehow, my brother and I managed to emerge from childhood without have destroyed the white wall to wall carpet which covered the house, even in our bedrooms. Imagine a kid being expected to keep white carpets clean! We didn't even think it odd, though.
The Herman Miller dining room furniture I grew up with now lives in my way eclectic apartment, among the miscellaneous old thrift shop furniture my husband and I acquired, back when it was plentiful and cheap, and the victorian family pieces my mother in law left me.
I'm sure the last thing our parents thought, when they were acquiring their sleek up to the minute mid-century stuff, was that it would have a nostalgic appeal. My mum, the last remaining parent, seems to enjoy seeing her stuff at my place, and views it nostalgically too.
Posted by: Lindy | Tuesday, December 27, 2005 at 06:00 AM
PS Happy birthday!
Posted by: Lindy | Tuesday, December 27, 2005 at 06:07 AM
What a cute little boy you were!
Happy birthday a little late, and thanks for all the work on your most excellent blog.
Posted by: Tana | Tuesday, December 27, 2005 at 08:31 AM
This reminded me so much of my own, late 60s, early 70s, just-outside-of-LA childhood Christmases. We didn't have a white tree, and my mother was more insistent on particular foods for Christmas Eve. But it certainly resonated.
I have a dessicating Christmas tree in my living room right now. I find I just really like the lights. But I have a photograph of two Buddhist monks on the top of it.
Happy Birthday, Brett. I so love your blog. Thanks for sharing.
Posted by: shauna | Tuesday, December 27, 2005 at 12:44 PM
haddock,happy birthday to you too!
Mona, glad to see (from your blog) that you're having fun getting back to nature in Carmel. It's like the exact opposite of NYC. You're comment makes me wonder if I don't celebrate Christmas because I never liked the competition with my own b-day (is that sacreligious?).
cookiecrumb, Mom was definitely groovy back then. Bouffant hairdo, Jackie O sunglasses, cocktail in hand, etc.
Greg, very appetizing indeed!
radish, thanks for the b-day wishes. Hope your festivities are also continuing.
Sam, glad to bring you a little sunshine, Ms. Scrooge;P Happy holidays and I'm sure I'll see you again next year.
Lindy, what a funny coincidence! What were our mothers thinking furnishing their houses in all white! Not fun for a kid (especially not a messy one like me).
Tana, ah shucks...thank you on both counts.
Shauna, I love that fusiony concept. Buddhist monks on your tree. I think I could go for that. Thanks for kind words too.
Your mention of lights on a dessicating tree reminds me of my first Xmas back home from college. I insisted we buy a real tree. I bought a beautiful fir tree that was like 14 feet tall from a man on a street corner for $50 (it was obviously stolen). I took it home and had to saw off the lower 2 or 3 feet to get it to fit into our living room. Then, much to my mom's horror, I insisted on live candles on the tree. It was the most beautiful tree I've ever seen. In hindsight, it was obviously my rebellious reaction to years of fake white plastic trees. Call it the rebellion of my inner Martha Stewart!
Posted by: Brett | Wednesday, December 28, 2005 at 12:03 AM